Monday, November 7, 2011

Clarity confounded

I was watching the movie "Paa" this weekend. I had watched it once before. For a movie with a poignant theme, it is a remarkably unsentimental movie. The characters are strong and well-etched, the story clear on its priorities, the actors at the top of their craft. There is a memorable scene where Vidya confesses her pregnancy to her mother and the only question she asks is "Do you want this baby?". Vidya haltingly replies only to be confronted with the same question from her mother. Again. And again. Until Vidya admits that she wants to have the baby.

It is a powerful scene. Succinct. With no melodrama or weeping histrionics on the parts of the characters. Beauty of the scene lies in communicating just one thing - is Vidya clear on what she wants? Baby or not? The rest can be taken care of, whether that deals with society's perception of an unwed mother or the practical aspect of single-parenting. I was struck by the simple yet persistent question that brings clarity to the heart of the problem. Solution then meekly follows suit.

How often in life do we get befuddled by an issue that stumps us? It may be a new situation or an ongoing one. Something that needs attention now or something that needs to be mulled over. Like the fable about the old man, his grandson and the donkey, we don't know whose advice to take. Should the old man ride the donkey or should the child be given a ride? Different people voice different opinions. Following one or the other seems to cause discomfort to one section of the populace. In frustration finally it is the donkey that is hitched onto the shoulders for a ride!

Seeking advice is a good thing to do when you are in a dilemma. Finding the right advisor for the right problem is an art in itself. But regardless of the wisdom of the well-wisher, we know deep down that the key to our problem lies within us. When too many thoughts swirl around causing turmoil, we are unable to see clearly in the sandstorm. But clarity lies within, not outside. It requires a journey inwards. A mentor can guide us on such a journey but wiping away the muck to view the issue with clarity is something we must do ourselves. Perhaps the best way is to ask ourselves that pesky but pertinent question repeatedly. It will first cause an uncomfortable churn, then an impulse to run away or shove it away to the back. But when we dig deep, we will find the way to the clear stream of water underground. And then rest of the obstacles, real and imagined will fall away.

From clarity arises purposeful action. Action that is sustained and right. But we need to also act first, act to find the clarity.

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